Insecurity and jealousy in a relationship

Handling insecurity and jealousy in a relationship can be difficult, and it is important to understand the underlying causes of it. This page is designed to help you discover the emotional truth of your jealousy and insecurity. Each person is unique, and so will be the key that will open their way to change.

You might find that one or two of these exercises may not be a great fit for you, but it is important that you try each of them. Read some of the case examples on this site to see how people are often very surprised by what they find when they let themselves do these exercises fully. You may discover some uncomfortable truths about yourself in doing these exercises. Try to be nice to yourself, and if you become overwhelmed at any point, just stop and rest. If you have a history of abuse, panic or thoughts of self-harm, please schedule a session or go through these exercises with your therapist.

Some of these exercises ask you to complete a sentence. Please read the sentence-stem either aloud or silently and then let the sentence finish itself without trying to pre-think an ending. Feel free to change the sentence-stem in order to make it feel more true. Repeat the exercise over and over until you are not getting any new endings before going on to the next one.

1. Please picture a recent time when you felt particularly jealous or insecure. Allow that scene to become very clear and name how you feel in your body. Now try saying, “Right now I am afraid that…” and let the sentence finish itself.
Keep doing this until you are getting no new endings.
When you are finished, write down some of the sentences that felt strongest.

This site is maintained by Tim Desmond, MFTI 51287 :: Supervised by Bruce Ecker, MFC 21355
copyright © 2007 Tim Desmond, MA. Last updated 31March2007.